For Men
You do not have to carry everything alone.
There is no single way to experience service or ask for help. Men on active duty, in the reserves and in veteran life deserve space to talk honestly and find support that fits.
Begin a conversation.
You do not need the perfect words. Let someone you trust know that things have been difficult and ask for time to talk or help making an appointment.
Build connection.
Choose a regular point of contact—a peer, a friend or a welcoming community group. Shared activities can offer a comfortable way to reconnect without pressure to explain everything.
Take changes seriously.
If changes in mood, sleep, anger or substance use are affecting daily life, speak with a qualified professional. Seeking care does not require reaching a breaking point.
Care should respect your experience, not rely on expectations about masculinity. Ask providers how they approach your concerns and what support options are available.
Support for everyone.
You do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
Whatever your gender or stage of service, your wellbeing matters. Start with one manageable step and build from there.
- Stay connected. Arrange a check-in with someone you trust, a peer or a community group where you feel welcome.
- Keep a steady rhythm. Make room for regular meals, rest and movement that suits your needs and abilities.
- Ask for appropriate care. Talk with a qualified health professional about persistent changes in mood, sleep or daily functioning.
These suggestions are general education, not a diagnosis or treatment plan. A qualified professional can help you decide what care is right for you.
If you need help right now
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 911 in the United States or your local emergency number. If you can, move to a safer place and ask a trusted person to stay with you.
In the United States, call 988 and press 1 for the Veterans Crisis Line, or text 838255. Support is available to service members and veterans; you do not need to be enrolled in VA benefits or health care.
Call 988, then press 1
Text 838255
Hope Through Valor does not provide emergency response. Do not wait for an email reply if you need urgent help.