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Depression & Anxiety Support
Feeling low, worn down, or constantly on edge does not mean you are weak or broken. It is common, it is treatable, and you do not have to carry it alone.
You are not alone
Steady, plain-language support for the whole military community
Depression and anxiety can follow any part of military life: deployment, reserve life, separation, or the move back to civilian routines. They can affect active-duty service members, reservists, veterans, and the families who stand beside them.
This page offers general information and pathways to official help. It is not a diagnosis or a replacement for care from a qualified professional. Reaching out is a practical step, and it is a strong one.
Common signs to notice
Everyone experiences these differently, and having some of them does not mean you have a condition. If they last, grow stronger, or get in the way of daily life, it is worth talking to someone.
Signs of depression
- A sad, empty, or numb mood that lingers
- Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
- Changes in sleep or appetite
- Low energy or constant tiredness
- Trouble concentrating or making decisions
- Feeling guilty, hopeless, or like a burden
- Pulling away from friends, family, or unit connections
Signs of anxiety
- Constant worry that is hard to switch off
- Feeling keyed up, restless, or on edge
- A racing heart, tight chest, or shortness of breath
- Muscle tension, headaches, or stomach trouble
- Trouble falling or staying asleep
- Irritability or a short fuse
- Avoiding situations that feel overwhelming
Urgent help
If you are in crisis or in immediate danger, get help right now
Emergency: If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call your local emergency number (911 in the United States) right away.
Veterans Crisis Line / 988: Service members, veterans, and their families can dial 988 and then press 1 to reach the Veterans Crisis Line, or visit the official site below.
If you are having thoughts of harming yourself, please do not wait. Reaching out in the moment is exactly what these services are for.
Practical tools
Grounding and coping tips for hard moments
These small habits can help you steady yourself. They support, but do not replace, professional care.
Slow your breathing
Breathe in slowly through your nose, then breathe out gently through your mouth, making the exhale a little longer than the inhale. Repeat for a few minutes.
Name what you can sense
Look around and name five things you can see, four you can feel, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste. It brings your attention back to the present.
Keep a simple routine
Try to keep regular times for waking, meals, movement, and sleep. A steady structure, familiar from service life, can make heavy days easier to get through.
Move and get outside
A short walk, some stretching, or a few minutes in natural light can ease tension and lift your mood a little. Small steps count.
Stay connected
Send a message, share a meal, or sit with someone you trust, even when you would rather withdraw. Connection is one of the strongest protections you have.
Limit what makes it worse
Alcohol, too little sleep, and constant news or social media can intensify low mood and worry. Notice what drains you and make small adjustments.
For family and friends
How to support a loved one
You do not need the perfect words. Showing up calmly and consistently matters most.
- Start the conversation. Choose a quiet moment and say what you have noticed with care, such as "I have been worried about you. How are you really doing?"
- Listen without fixing. Let them talk. Avoid rushing to solutions or judging what they share.
- Take it seriously. Do not dismiss what you hear as a phase or a lack of toughness.
- Encourage professional help. Offer to help look up options or sit with them while they make a call.
- Keep checking in. A simple message or visit over time shows they are not forgotten.
- Know the urgent steps. If you believe someone is in danger, use the urgent-help options above right away. And take care of your own wellbeing too.
Official resources
Where to turn for trusted help
These are official sources. Each link opens the organization's own website.
Veterans Crisis Line
Confidential support for service members, veterans, and their families, including through 988 then press 1.
VA Mental Health
Information on mental health care and services offered through the Department of Veterans Affairs.
Vet Centers
Community-based counseling and support for veterans and service members. Use the official site to find a location.
Military OneSource
Support resources for service members and their families, including help finding non-medical counseling options.
Emergency Services
For immediate danger, call your local emergency number (911 in the United States). Do not wait for a website.
Not sure where to start?
Any of the sources above is a good first step. If you are unsure, the Veterans Crisis Line can point you in the right direction.
Taking the first step
What to expect when you reach out
Reaching out can feel daunting. Knowing the general shape of it can make it easier. Details vary by service, so check each official site.
- Someone will listen. You can start by simply describing how you have been feeling. You do not need to have it all figured out.
- You will be asked a few questions. These help the person understand what you need and point you to the right kind of support.
- You will talk through options. This may include counseling, treatment, or other services, and you can ask questions along the way.
- You choose your next step. If the first conversation is not the right fit, it is okay to try another resource.
You have carried a lot. You do not have to carry it alone.
Taking one step today, whether it is a call, a message, or a conversation with someone you trust, can move you from struggle toward stability and from uncertainty toward hope.
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